Stop! Say No To Taunts on being Jobless

 

Dear Readers: I’m an unemployed engineer eating carelessly at my home with my full right.Trying to figure out my life in a whirlwind of post-graduation, just like all of you.In this era where our society is full of affliction (fitnah fasad), I have heard stories that could fill a book about people ready to drag you down. I’m writing this to let you know that you are not alone.

FEEDBACK FROM MY PREVIOUS BLOG:

I recently wrote my first blog and sent that to my circle for feedback.What I've realized?Now they think I'm a depressed person, hating my friends and family for telling me the bitter realities every time we meet, which I've known already for the past two years, by the way.Some of them motivate me to write more about solutions to avoid taunts because they can relate them.So here is this blog on my ways of avoiding criticism. The previous Blog👉 Click Here

Desi Version Of Taunts

Abhi Tak Farig Bhete Ho👧
Koi Job Nhi Lagi😊
Wese Tumne Kiya Kya Hai💔
Maa Baap K Paise Zaya Kiye Hain😭
Es sey Acha Kch Or Kerlete👊
Jab Yhi Job Kerni Thi Tu "B.A" Ker lete🙏
Job Tu Mil Nhi Rhi Tu Shaadi Kerlo👫
Css Kerlo Bara Scope Hai,Masters Ku Nhi Kerte👀
Apna Business Shuru Kero💁

Taunts from parents

Brown parents are emotional and dramatic by nature. At first, they don’t let you do what you want to because of society. You happily submit yourselves to their expectations.You devote your time, energy, and potential trying to become something you never want to. Still, you get no job. Parents will declare you not competent they will give you a look of sheer disappointment. (sara din ghar bhete ho koi kaam hi kerlo).They will compare you with your other siblings who somehow succeed, and you will be like, what should I do? (kya kero me mar jao meri koi feelings nhi hain). 

Taunts from Society

Our society plays a vital role in parental brainwashing. Specially aunty taking a fierce interest in our lives out of nowhere. This includes two types of people: Free advisors who are doing something valuable. Free advisors who themselves are doing nothing.We as a nation love to poke our noses into other’s lives.They are going to tell you to do master or CSS; if not, the only solution you are left with is to marry.

Solutions to avoid them

After asking a lot of people and observing myself, I came to this conclusion there are two things you can do 

1. Stand up for yourself
2. Stay quiet and tolerate

Stand up for yourself

For example, if they are doing masters, they will tell you to do the same. Just ask them why they are doing their masters. I know people who call their master leads to Ph.D. LoL, I thought it’s necessary for CSS :p Contrary to it, they are doing masters because they don’t get a job

If they suggest you marry, tell them you are waiting for their wedding.

For boys, if some random person asks you why you are not doing a job, ask them if they want to marry you.


If your husband taunts you about being a useless engineer, tell them if I were not an engineer, I would marry you.

Stay quiet and tolerate 

The second method is to stay quiet and say nothing. This method sometimes puts you under stress or depression. Everyone has their own tolerance level, so that depends on you.

I am not advising you to wait around for them to drop it. I will also not tell you to win over with kindness or compassion. It won't work. I say self-motivation and confidence are keys to everything so, build that up in yourself. Choose wisely; which path do you want to go.

In my case, if you can not inspire me, do not demolish me. my life my rules (meri zindagi meri merzi).

LIFE OF A GRADUATE STUDENTS IN PAKISTAN

Do you guys dream of what life is after graduation?

Dear readers, we all shared mixed emotions, thoughts, and excitement about graduation. I am an electrical engineer from one of the renowned universities in Pakistan. I’m a micro-unit in a troop of unemployed youth out there still figuring what to do with their life after graduation. Pardon me if my views do not resemble the bulk of youth, but this is going to reflect many souls out there.

Expectations before graduation:

When you are in your last semester of graduation, you are excited, energetic, and hopeful about your future, especially by scoring a good GPA and being an outstanding student. You have high hopes imagining you will Conquer the world. You devote all your time and energy hoping for a better future. But that bubble broke soon after post-graduation. It's not like every one of us is facing the same issues. I know people working in multinational companies.

Applying online on job portals:

The first thing you do after graduation is applying online on different job portals. But what's the most fun part? You search for fresh graduate jobs in the search bar. After reading the job descriptions, you get to know that the employer wants a fresh graduate with experience of three to four years. You try not to lose hope. You apply to thousands of job applications daily that pops up in front of you and get no response. Is it okay not to have a job after graduation? Well, it depends on how many days, months, and years you have wasted.

Parents conclusion about you:

At the start, everything will be regular, your parents will only give you a look of hope.No one will discuss this topic every day… the problem occurs when it's a year or two of your unemployment. Parents will start taunting you, telling you that you have successfully wasted their money. In my case, after two years of unemployment, my mother made me realize that we would have lived a luxurious life if they made me do a B.A. Which now I feel is true. Taking a lesson from this, I decided not to spend excessive money on my children. I did nothing, what will they do... Conquer the world, lol.

Society’s interest in your life:

Those who never asked you if you are feeling well or not will start taking interest in your life Surprisingly, every member of your maternal and paternal family seems fiercely focused on your life, asking about what are you doing, do you get a job, or not, and if not… Haw! What a shame!.Yeah, aunty, as if I don’t know…

Some serious brown-life problems:

Aside from unemployment, single life is also waiting to hit you brutally while your friends are uploading pictures of getting married...What adds more twist to it? When you are not slim. Your parents will start telling you to lose weight, otherwise, no one will marry you. Making me feel: Am I the only one who is suffering from every issue?

You find ways to ignore everyone:

By this time, you become so barefaced that nothing can hurt you anymore. You try finding solutions to overcome this depression and stress. What will help you in this instance? Tweets and memes. I must say, we Pakistani have so much talent in making memes. We should get an Oscar for that. But this has given me time to excel in the genuine skills that will help me in my non-existent career.

Even if you get a job, it is irrelevant to your field. You poke your nose in every other field just because of fewer job opportunities and pressure from society. Yes, that is correct — there was a time when I could be a receptionist with a degree in engineering. Well, most of us are still unemployed, even though we are willing to change our career paths. Concluding that life after graduation in Pakistan is as easy as finding peace after matric.